Spring has sprung! The light blush of green are deepening daily into strong luscious dark green leaves. The brook is babbling and the birds are returning with their song. The new deck off the barn has already hosted an art weekend, a client conversation or two, as well as some relaxed sun drenching.

I created Rendezvous Rupert, both the services and the place, as a way to support people in their organizations and in their lives as a whole. Leaders, managers, entrepreneurs, anyone wanting to live a life that feels right for them, a life that is aligned with who they are. Whether through coaching or group facilitation, the focus is on learning about how you influence and engage in the world around you to get the life that brings you joy and satisfaction.

This newsletter comes out about 3 to 4 times a year. Its intention is to let you know about upcoming workshops, updates on my website, new resources I've discovered, and sometimes something I've been noticing that I think might be useful for you to think about. I hope the dates for our workshops and events do fit for you, especially those of you who have made inquires. If not, give me a call to see what we might collaboratively figure out for you. Please note that Leading Ourselves has changed format - to an afternoon dialogue group.

All services, coaching, consulting, workshops and retreats are adaptable and available in many formats, half or full day, multi-day or as a weekly series. We can offer you support in both urban and rural locations, though I encourage you to come and experience our space here in Rupert. Since the snow has melted, the new deck has added another level of comfort for team retreats, art play and relaxed conversations. As has been said before, it's an 'awesome place' to reflect, realign and rejuvenate!

Breathe big!
Linda

 

One way I've been supporting folks lately has been through facilitating conversations between people (individuals or teams) who are beginning to or have lost their trust in one another. What I've noticed is that this kind of chaffing or friction often begins with a story we tell ourselves about the other, the story we think is 'reality'. If that story don't mesh with our own beliefs about how something should be the spiral of misunderstanding and subsequently mistrust continues to grow. Work becomes a place we dread going to, even if we ultimately love what we do.

Both the challenge and the opportunity is in realizing that our perspective is just one of many perspectives. What we see (notice) is filtered by our own expectations, experiences and assumptions. Our filters, along with the fact that we seldom know the 'whole story' (but we think we do), create even more misunderstanding. With this awareness, when we come together with the intention of really listening, there is a possibility that a new story can be co- created, one that allows for some clarity about what is wanted and how that might be achieved.

What I hear from the people I'm working with is that I offer some interim safety and plant the seed of hope that things could get better. My role is to witness and to slow down the conversation enough to give everyone an opportunity to speak and to hear each other. It takes time and certainly some personal risk to have this conversation, but it seems to be me that it's less risky than staying with the painful status quo. From what I'm seeing, working your way towards a preferred working relationship, one that restores some respect for one another, and an acceptance of your differences...has been worth the risk involved.

"You have done an excellent job. It wasn't easy but you succeeded in at least bringing us to a place of reflection and openness. Thank you. There is still much to do. Maybe things will work out!" Marie

 

 

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